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The Human Connection

The Human Connection

The Human Connection is indefeasible, and only can be suppressed as well as brought up. We have all felt what it is like to have a connection with other human beings. Why does this connection make us feel so in sync with the other person and the world? It is one of the most important needs for humans. It fits into each one of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs Pyramid, besides the physiological needs. However, that's not to say that physiological needs can't play a part in human connection. Have you ever felt full after a deep conversation or have trouble connecting with people when hungry? I will explain how the human connection fits into Maslow’s Pyramid. The energy and spark of connecting can create a feeling of fullness. It also gives us a feeling of safety. When we connect with someone, we feel more comfortable with that person, allowing us to feel safer with them. The homey feeling when we recognize one another as if we are in the same family or tribe, being able to relate to one another, and to be on the same page. There is a deeper understanding of what it means to be a human being. Martin Luther King said it best, “We are all brothers and sisters.” When connecting on a higher level over the foundation that is the physiological realm, we step closer to the top of the pyramid. Creating that connection to feel safe, leads to a sense of belonging and being loved. This is the next level, but is not attainable without feeling safe. Feeling safe leads to friendship, family and sexual intimacy according to the Pyramid. We all have that inner desire to be loved and have a sense of belonging. Since the beginning of mankind we’ve been working in groups and creating systems, creating a working family. Everyone is dependent on one another to keep the group alive. It is a part of human nature to want to work together. In order to be dependent on others, one must have independence. To give and receive human connection one must be able to hold their own with esteem. One must be confident in what they do and have felt accomplished. If there isn’t a sense...

The Whole Picture

The Whole Picture

Here are some words from a yogi that is finding himself by bicycling across America. Being mindful and whole are things worth striving for in life. If one is not whole, one is not complete. If a person is not whole it is merely impossible to FULLY advance towards meaning, whether it be: a job, significant other, or even the type of food you eat. To be aware of who you are is to be mindful, and to make conscious decisions to strive for that is to have mindsight. Here is an excerpt from Dr. Daniel J. Siegel's book, Mindsight, in which he describes mindfulness transforms into. "Mindsight is a kind of focused attention that allows us to see the internal workings of our own mind. It helps us to be aware of our mental props without being swept away by them, enables us to get ourselves off the autopilot of ingrained behaviors and habitual responses, and moves us beyond the reactive emotional loops we all have a tendency to get trapped in. -photo taken by Shagun Pradhan This is slightly different than his definition of mindfulness."Mindfulness is a form of mental activity that trains the mind to become aware of awareness itself and to pay attention to one's own intention. As researchers have defined it, mindfulness requires paying attention to the present moment from a stance that is nonjudgmental and nonreactive. It teaches self-observation; practitioners are able to describe with words the internal seascape of the mind." Dr. Siegel describes this as a form of "internal tuning in" By doing this we can allow ourselves to be "our own best friend. And just as our attunement to our children promotes a healthy, secure attachment, tuning in to the self also promotes a foundation for residence and flexibility."To have this mindfulness and make conscious decisions to act upon being aware is to have mindsight. Here is an Introduction to Mindfulness and Mindsight. So what does this all have to do with wholeness? One must know why they are doing what they are doing, and not just running through the motions. Wholeness is a term I learned while I was in Santa Fe. I spent most of my two weeks in Santa Fe learning at a world...